In case you’d missed it, it is Father’s Day this weekend. Traditionally falling on the third Sunday of June, the day celebrates fatherhood in all its forms and allows us to reflect on the influence of fathers and father-figures in our lives. Last month I wrote about the Martyr money type – the mother of the 8 money types. Now it seems fitting to tell you about the Warrior: One of the money types.
Make way for the all-conquering hero
Most of us have had some form of father-figure in our personal lives or at work, that fits into the type. Protective fathers, generous uncles, bosses good at investing and colleagues successful in work. The pull of paternal bonds attracts us to people we feel will protect and teach us. And Warriors step up to the mark with their wise and discerning confidence, driven and loyal personalities and heroic concern for others’ welfare.
And who, at some point in our lives, hasn’t wanted to possess the qualities of an all-conquering hero?
Do you want to feel confident, generous and in control of money?
Of course you do.
Winning at all costs
Warriors are in control of their money and like to make their own decisions but, sometimes it is to their disadvantage. They don’t trust others’ judgement, preferring instead to think for themselves, or “go it alone”. They will be reluctant to listen to someone else’s opinion – not because it goes against what they think but because they aren’t sure it comes from a friendly source. If they can’t trust that someone is friendly, it is far safer to treat them as a competitor.
This can lead to a desire to win at all costs and to see everyone else as an adversary.
On the flip-side of wanting to stand out as all-conquering and successful, Warriors can fear dependence and loss of power. They are goal-oriented and like things to be done their way.
So, if you recognise the Warrior in yourself, beware of taking everything on yourself and not trusting anyone else.
A balancing act
We could all benefit from practicing some of the tendencies that the Warrior possesses but getting it in proportion to other behaviours is key. It is all about striking the right balance between:
- control over our money
- confidence in investing our time and money on projects
- generosity and the willingness to listen to others
- collaboration and trust
It’s important for us to understand what we are seeking to protect and conquer. Are we looking to have supremacy over all our competitors or colleagues? Or would a healthy dose of competition be best served in an atmosphere of altruism and generosity? So, to manage your Warrior without defeating it completely, try these:
Daily affirmation: I can co-create with others without loss of power. I don’t have to do everything alone.
Be generous: but without wielding your power over anyone. Do not give in order just to receive. Know when to pick up the sword and when to put it down.
Ask for help: don’t slog it out alone just because you don’t want to lose face. If you can’t do something alone, find someone who can.
If you want to learn more about balancing and fine-tuning your Warrior tendencies, contact me today for a conversation.