We all digest information in different ways, so I’m sharing my about the importance of loving yourself more in writing (see below) and via this short video as well. Enjoy!
With mental health issues, depression, anxiety, and financial uncertainty at an all-time high, could radical self-love and an empowering community be the lifeline we need?
Self-love is one of those things that can often be misunderstood as being self-indulgent and, dare I say it, egotistical!
As women we’re taught from a young age that we should give our love and attention to everyone else first and keep ourselves as far down the list of importance as possible. Doing so makes us a ‘good’ woman; a ‘kind’ woman. And if we don’t embrace these noble acts of sacrifice, we are selfish and, to some, unlovable!
But can we truly love others unconditionally if we don’t first love ourselves in that way?
Self-love is a personal journey
Self-love is so much more than simply taking time out for massages and long hot candle lit bubble baths (although they’re wonderful)! It’s a deeply personal and unique journey of self-discovery.
No one can tell you how to love yourself. Only you know your own heart and your own wants, needs and desires. I can point you in the right direction and share tools with you that have transformed mine and my clients’ lives but the magic formula for your experience of self-love lies within you.
So, pick and choose from the tools you come across. Try things on. Adapt them to suit your needs. And above all let your own inspiration guide you every step of the way.
If you wouldn’t say it to your best friend don’t say it to yourself!
If you’re anything like the rest of us, you probably have an inner voice that is world class at tearing you down and berating you, as opposed to being compassionate and reassuring.
If this is true for you, one of the most transformative and loving things you can do is change how you talk to yourself. Just imagine having an inner voice that’s comforting and compassionate and empowers you, rather than criticising and abusing you!
When your inner voice starts berating you, try to catch it in the act and write down what it’s saying. Getting that voice out of your head and down on paper immediately reduces its power.
Then ask yourself this simple question: “Would I talk to my best friend like this?”. And 99.99% of the time the answer is no, you wouldn’t dream of it! Hek, you probably wouldn’t even talk to your worst enemy like it! So don’t speak to yourself that way either!
Do what makes you happy
Do you know what makes you happy? It’s quite shocking how many of us don’t. We know what makes our partners, friends, and families happy. But when it comes to our own joy, we draw a blank.
Asking yourself, “What makes me happy?” and then bringing those things into your life, is a game changer! And it doesn’t have to be big things. An accumulation of lots of small things can make a huge difference.
Here’s a little list of some of my happy things to kickstart your own inspiration…
- Curling up in a comfy chair with a good book and a steaming cup of cocoa
- Watching the sunrise and/or sunset
- Drinking tea from a teapot with a beautiful china cup and saucer
- Crunchy sweet Pink Lady apples
- Walking in the woods
- Laughing with my best friends
- Lazy Sunday mornings with my hubby
- Writing in a beautiful journal with my favourite pen
- My favourite brand of herbal tea
Discovering what makes you happy and doing those things regularly creates a beautiful connection with your soul. So, make your own happiness list and bring as many of those things into your daily life as you can and feel your self-love blossom.
Fall in love with money!
Are you triggered by the idea of loving money?
Have you ever noticed how the relationship you have with money is a direct reflection of the relationship you have with yourself! Ignore it and disrespect it, and it suffers and stagnates. But when you engage with it, nurture it and appreciate it, it blossoms and grows!
So, I’m sure you can appreciate, creating a healthy relationship with money is vitally important for self-love.
Just like your relationship with yourself, your money needs time and attention. And the more engaged you are with your bank accounts, and the flow of your money, the more empowered you’ll feel.
Respecting and looking after money requires you to respect and look after yourself. I’ve seen so many women completely transform their lives by simply transforming the way they interact with their finances. Their confidence grows. They feel more independent. They begin spending their money wisely. And they feel empowered to talk about money more openly.
The love we find in communities
I’ve always known how important community is, but until recently I never quite appreciated just how profoundly it can impact the depth of self-love in the individuals that are part of it.
Recently I’ve been privileged to witness the transformation of the women who join my Guided Group coaching program. Now, while I know the content of the program is transformational in and of itself, it’s the deeply profound impact of being in a community together that has blown me away.
Through loving and supporting each other, the women are flourishing in the most beautiful ways. They’re letting go of old stories and conditioning around money and around how safe they feel being in a community.
They’re accepting and loving themselves and each other and creating friendships and bonds that transcend their time in the program. The collective consciousness of the group is transforming them all to the point where their self-love is overflowing into every area of their lives.
I’d like to end with this. When you fill yourself up with your own love first, everyone else has the joy of receiving from your abundant overflow and that is the greatest gift you can give.
I really hope you’ve found some interesting points to reflect on. And if you’d like to explore things further, feel free to reach out to me – I would love to support you. You can either take my Money Quiz and then book a free call with me. Or, if finding out about your money relationship isn’t your thing and you want to skip straight to a free call, click here and book a time in my diary. I can’t wait to connect with you.